I’ve noticed in some of my reading of late that some would say that to accept your body size and to accept your fatness is the same as saying you “give up”. It’s talked about like it’s a bad thing…a bad thing to accept yourself. I, myself, have been told that to accept my fat is just an excuse.
Giving up?!?! An excuse?!?!
Giving up? Giving up what?
Dieting? Self-imposed guilt? Self-hate? Feeling “less than”? Trying to live up to other people’s expectation? Starvation? Restricting? Judging others and myself?
An excuse? An excuse to do what?
Eat? Experience hunger? Stop tracking every morsel I eat? Gain weight (or possibly lose weight)? Love myself for who I am? Be kind to myself with movement and fun? Treat myself with respect?
Do you see how insane that is?
What’s even scarier to me is that other fat people are the ones telling me this. Is it because they are afraid of my progress? Are they afraid of trying something new? Are they secretly happy for me that I’ve finally found this road to travel?
Fat Acceptance is not just for fatties either. One of my most staunch supporters from the beginning has been Angry Gray Rainbows and she is not considered fat or obese (although she’s experienced all sizes in the past). I have other people in my life that are thin and that love fat people as they are.
I believe that the stigma attached to being fat will only be undone when everyone accepts everyone else for who they are and how they look.
~sas
Angry Gray Rainbows 
I remember when I first started my eating disorder recovery work. The only way I could get myself to do any of the acceptance and IE and OO stuff was to tell myself that ultimately it would make me thin. I didn’t let go of the thin fantasy for a very long time into my recovery.
You and I (in particular) were told by people with passion that if we just did the right things, in time we would be at least somewhere near normal in weight. However, this is just not the case for many people. For some folks, to be near a normal weight would require a rigid food regime that could potentially cause feelings of deprivation and food obsession. Personally, I love my brain free of the load of obession due to deprivation.
Again, I think this tripe about telling people that FA is a delusional way to stay COE or BED is the pot calling the kettle black. How many people do we know that have used food plans as a way to stay disordered? How many times have we done this to OURSELVES and had to lovingly pull ourselves back from the deprivation and thin obsession.