A friend pointed me to an eating disorder forum post that had some words I think are so wise and wonderful. That said, I won’t be providing a link to this forum or post… at least not at this point. It’s not worth the sanity points that are too easily expended with some of the other stuff that goes on there.
A poster (and old friend) who I have always found so intuitive and loving to herself and others (not to mention wise) said: “I don’t have a weight loss problem. I have a self-acceptance problem.” Bravo! I love it! I have heard this idea before, but it’s been a while since I’ve seen it written… and I think it’s a great idea to keep in mind when dieting, fatness, thinness and weight-loss thoughts are troubling us.
To be clear, this was posted in a thread related to weight restoration. That one must have the acceptance fundamentals down before trying to lose weight if one is overweight. I believe that weight restoration may work for some and that some people are meant to be fat or have damaged their poor bodies to the point that fat is as thin as they’re ever going to get. I believe in HAES and intuitive eating (intuitive living, really) and size acceptance. I am pointing this out, because I am sure some of ya’all know about this post and I don’t want anyone to mistake that I have changed my size-acceptance views. I haven’t. Nor, would that person who posted those words (I believe anyway) agree with all the stuff on this site… maybe most of it. I don’t know. I haven’t asked. But, those words are so lovely, I think, when framed in a size acceptance/HAES/IE point of view that I am sharing them anyway.
“I don’t have a weight loss problem. I have a self-acceptance problem.” Love it!
–AngryGrayRainbows
Angry Gray Rainbows 
I too love that quote. I would take it a bit futher. “A self-acceptance problem” puts it mildly for me. I had a self-hate problem. Now it has ratcheted down to self-acceptance.
At this point, I am not comforatble going to any ED site that is not completely body/size/HAES positive.
Thanks