Open threadiness activate! 😀
Thank you to all of you who recommended Dansko shoes in some old post where I talked about shoes for my standing-all-day job. My Asics were an improvement on my previous shoes, but the toe was very narrow which caused me to put my weight on the outside edges of my feet – causing all sorts of back pain. So, today, I dropped $132 on the Danskos… hopefully they help. I went for the Kelsey pull-ups, since they seemed simple and sturdy. 😉 Wish me luck with the new shoes! My back so needs a break from shoes that don’t deal well with hours on end standing and fast walking…
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Angry Gray Rainbows 
Anyone know anything about cat angry bed pooping? One of my cats has been pooing in my bed a lot lately… especially since I got a new job, so I’m not home with him 24/7.
This morning, he REALLY REALLY wanted to sit on my lap, but I was writing a post, so I didn’t let him. Next thing ya know… bed poo. Right. On. My. Pillow. So, I changed all the bed stuff, pulled mr. poos a lot out of his hidey hole and snuggled him in bed for an hour. He loves that. I made him a blanket cave and he purred and purred… hopefully that will make him happy…
Anyone else ever seen this from their cat?
Wonder if you’re snuggling looks to him as if you’re rewarding him for leaving you a present.
What do I know? I’m a dog person! 🙂
This particular cat has been beaten and put outside on a balcony (and he’s not an outdoor cat) by previous owners trying to stop his anger pooping. My theory is that he was pooping from emotional issues and the abuse only caused more emotion issues – hence more pooping.
Since his incidencts almost always coincide with me being busier than usual, it seems like his behavior is tied to his missing me…. so the remedy (to me) would be to give him what he needs… mommy time. Giving him extra love does seem to stop him… until he gets upset again…
The challenge with this cat is that he really only likes me. He’s pretty shy and isn’t into hubby for some reason…. so it’s all on me to take care of this kitty…. which would be fine, but there is also one other kitty that also only really likes love from me…. it’s hard to juggle two kitties who seem obsessed with me. Ironically, it is the two black and white kitties who can’t seem to live without spending hours in my lap each day… the gray and white and the tabby prefer hubby. 😛 cats are weird.
Woo, open threadiness!
I had a fun Labor Day. I met some new friends, and they offically inducted me into their group by creating a Mii version of me on thier Wii (wow, that sentence sounds wierd when you read it out loud). While making the Mii, my friend’s husband looked at me and said “You have very nice, full lips, and I mean that in a good way.” That made me laugh so hard. No guy has ever complimented me on my lips!
I don’t have a cat, but wouldn’t it be nice if we could get every cat in the world to do this whenever their owners committed an act of fat hatred?
LOL…. hehehehe… you are awesome.
Seriously, consult a cat expert. I will save you money in the long run and you will all be happier. Could you let her sit on your lap when you blog? Is that too much to ask. (Just me channeling your cat.)
I hear you. The hang-up was that there already was a giant cat in my lap purring away. Two cats in my lap plus a lap top was just too much. Agh, the infernal cat love!!!
Last night, while I was at work, I assigned hubby the task of playing with mr. pooping cat… the cat loved it. Hopefully the extra attention will help him chill…
I forgot this part… mr. pooping cat happens to be the favorite of this one cat behavioralist, so I get advice for free. 😉 I prolly will call her soon to get her advice… she’s helped me with his pooping before….
re: angry cat bed poo – my sister’s cat does the exact same thing whenever my sister isn’t around enough or giving her enough attention. For a while, she had to keep the bed covered with plastic and/or crinkly newspapers (the noise would scare the kitty off) whenever she was out of the house. Eventually this seemed to cure divacat, though as soon as sister was away too much again, divacat was right back at it! It’s been a cycle, but the plastic seems to be at least a short-term cure.
LOL… i used to have this extra shower curtain for bed protection, but when i moved, maybe I threw it away… i have no idea where it is… maybe it’s time i get another one.
Oooo ooooo!!!! I just had a cat AHA moment!!!
Not only did Time’s (yes, that is his name) pooping start when I got this job… but it also started when my dear kitty Abilene started demanding she get all my attention whenever I am home! She has been hogging me… and I have been letting her, because I feel so bad for her… she often seems a little depressed and the other cats tend to pick on her…. but I cannot forget to give attention to my cat Time!
Maybe it is time I coddle Abi a little less and give Timey a little more love…. and take Abi out for regular walks… a walk with Abilene tends to fill her quota of mommy time really quickly, so that she leaves me some free time to play with my other cats…
You’re welcome about the Danskos 😀
I heard about them from an acquaintance, who heard about them from her friend, who is a nurse and has to be on her feet all the time.
Good shoes are a definite must – I hope they work out for you!
You know how diets don’t work? You know that feeling of “tried everything” to try and lose weight? That desperation that if someone told you that you should only eat while jumping up and down and then the calories won’t count, you’d give it a try? I’m having that about depression. Is there really any cure for someone with chronic, genetic depression?
I hear you on the depression, Sophie… and my heart goes out to you! Hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs!!!
Are you on any meds to help manage your depression? They can be a lifesaver… literally. Are you in any treatment for your depression right now?
Thanks AGR.
Yeah, I’m on Citalopram. I’ve also tried Prozac, Venlafaxine, Seroxat and Fluoxine (sp?). I’ve tried different doses of most and though I get side effects they don’t help with the depression enough. Well, I suppose I’m not suicidal anymore but there is a long way between that and just peaceful enjoyment of life which is what I was hoping for. Maybe that’s unrealistic?
I’ve tried counselling but am just about to have another go with a new therapist/CBT/hypnotherapist. I have to admit to being dubious but I’ll give it my best shot. I feel like I’m on the cusp of a new diet, I just don’t believe there is a cure.
My doctor’s answer to the depression is to lose weight. He wants me to go running (!) every day until I’m breathless and sweaty. He also wants me to go to Weight Watchers (even offered a subsidy).
The fight is feeling pretty lonely at the moment.
Hugs hugs hugs hugs, Sophie! Your doc sounds like he’s more of a hinderance than a help. This guy seems to know nothing about eating disorders at all!!
I wonder if a new doc is in order? Not just cuz of the ignorant things your doc says, but another doc might be willing to try different ways to treat you.
For example, my depression reacts very well to ADD meds. Anti-depressants do help me some, but often the side-effects are worse than the relief in depression that they give me. Then, a doc really wanted to treat my ADD, so I thought about it and let him… and Ritalin does more for my depression than Fluoxitine, Venlafaxine or Citalopram (I’ve been on those too… hah) ever have.
My therapist (not my pdoc) always had the idea that treating my PTSD would do more for my depression than going for the depression head-on… and I think she’s been right.
I wonder if something like this might help you?
I know you’re in the UK and all, but if you ever wanted to talk on the phone, you are welcome to call me. You have my personal (non-AGR) email address, if you’d ever like my number. A good phone chat can go a long way to feel less alone. Also… as you prolly know… Sas and I are on Yahoo and you know we love to keep up with you, my friend.
Right now… can you remember what a diet is most likely to yield for you? I think you know that weight loss (in the long term) is unlikely… however, weight gain is very likely. Diets also don’t help depression or that feeling of being so lonely.
My heart goes out to you, Sophie. You are in my thoughts and I’m wishing you all the best. I hope you find a light at the end of that depression tunnel soon!!!
Also, I invite you to comment and talk about your depression (or whatever else you want to talk about) in the open threads and in posts that you relate to. Please, don’t feel shy. We have good people that comment on this blog who can help you feel less alone in your struggles.
In fact, if you’d like to write a post about your depression and your struggles with it, I invite you to. I would be happy to post it for you. I have a feeling you’d get some good responses from commentors/readers who suffer similarly. What say?
Thanks, I truly appreciate that. I’ll have a think about my doctor. We get less choice as far as doctors go but maybe I can switch to a different person at the same practice.
I’ll happily write you a post, it’s a great network of people on here. *waves* hi everyone 🙂
Sophie,
I don’t know if you remember my last trip to a psychologist. He was recommended to me by my general physician. I knew when I first met him he was going to do awesome things for me (and he did). He helped me get through some really tough issues and I can’t help but think of him when I remember making my biggest leaps in therapy. However, for all the good he did, he was convinced that weight loss was what I needed more than anything.
This man was brilliant in so many things but his knowledge of eating disorders was nil. Ok, so he treated anorexics and came highly recommended because of that but I could tell he hadn’t come across any compulsive overeaters or binge eaters who knew the route they wanted to take.
Over and over I told him that I knew weight loss was not the solution to my problems. I know that my problems are my problems, not my weight. If I lost weight, I’d just be thin and screwed up. 😉
He continued to urge me to have hypnosis, to diet and then he asked me to think about weight loss surgery. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I typed out a very lengthy and very professional letter stating why I would not be going back to him. I thanked him for the help he had afforded me but told him not to expect me to come back. He actually wrote me a nice letter and asked that I come back and talk it through with him but, at that time, I wasn’t in the frame of mind to do that. To date, I haven’t been back.
If you like this doctor except for his weight loss focus and you can ignore his proddings, then keep going to him. If not, start looking for someone else. Having a doc to support you is a really great thing. The letter I sent to the psychologist was cc:d to my general physician and ever since he got it, he has not brought up my weight one time. He’s treated me for the symptoms I’ve gone in for instead of assuming my weight is the cause for everything.
I know depression sucks! OMG, do I know it? YUCK! I hope you find a light at the end of the tunnel soon. Depression can completely wear you out and just make everything seem like it’s in slow motion. I hope the new pdoc helps you through some stuff and that you two are a good fit for each other.
Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself through this period. You’ll need all the loving kindness you can give yourself. Keep us updated!
Okay, Writer-Lady! I am looking forward to getting your post in the email!! I think writing is good for the soul… but you’d know that better than me Ms. Published Author. Sometimes you make me so jealous. 😛