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Ok, I have to vent for a few minutes.
Today is Administrative Professionals Day (or secretary’s day as I refer to it) and I never get the recognition I deserve on this day. I got a gift card from one of my bosses last year only after guilting him into it.
I bust my butt around this office! I field all calls from disgruntled and sometimes very beligerant people who like to curse at me. I am loyal, trustworthy and sensitive to the confidentiality my job requires. I dress nice and present myself to the public in a very personable and professional way.
I am hurt that I RARELY get praised or recognized for the job I do and do well. Because I work for a government entity I haven’t been given a raise since 2008.
I was taught to do my best at anything I attempt and to not expect any praise but I’m still hurt.
Oh ouch, what a jerk! Sassyblond, I hear you. I had a job where my boss ignored me except when she wanted something or wanted to criticize something, and it slowly sucked all the happiness out of the place I spend most of my working hours. I was lucky enough to find another job, and my current boss sends me little notes to tell me I’m doing a great job and thanks me for things and chats sometimes. I would do ANYTHING not to let her down because she makes me feel good. It matters.
I hope they wake up or you find a better place soon.
Trabb’s Boy, thanks! Now that’s what I’m talking about. I believe one gives even more to their job and works even harder when there’s just that bit of recognition. Good for you!
Sassy said;
“I believe one gives even more to their job and works even harder when there’s just that bit of recognition.” Good managers know this but not everyone out there is a good manager. Would it make you feel any better to know that it itsn’t personal the way you have been treated is just evidence of poor management skills by the head of your department.
I am personally not in favor of Administratvie Pofessioal’s day. It iseems a bit forced and a bit condescending to me.
I used to feel uncomfortable with praise because I thought if I then messed up they would think the good words went to my heard.
I would have to say MS Tough Love above had a few good points that would have made you think had she not been so INSULTING, RUDE AND FLAT OUT OBNOXIOUS.
Maybe your expectations are too high given the type of people you work with. They are not typical managers and probably don’t understand the vaue of praise. My managers rarely praise me but I have received some outstanding reveiws. If you have had good reviews, remeber they have put them in writing where they count. I am sure you are very professional and those people are lucky to have you. I am glad you listed all the positive things about your job. As I recall, you have not always been so happy in the job so that alone is cause for celebration. Try to take satisfaction in a job well done. I am in private industry and have not had a raise in almost 2 years and it is discouraging.
Praise is great but some people just don’t know how to give it. I ususally went to the people least likely to give me praise and validation before I got into recovery. Dry wells were my specialty. I guess I thought if someone who was critical or withholding praised or validated me it was really worth something.
Aside from Admin day, have you ever been praised or thanked by your manager? If so, try to hang on to that. If not, take heart in a job well done and realize they are probably incapable of giving praise.
JR, thanks sweetie!
Yes, rethinking who it is I work for…a majority of men who have never worked in corporate America with supervisory training…has made me realize that my wish for praise is probably futile. My expectations are too high.
Overall, I think Admin Professionals day is just another reason for greeting card companies to make a buck.
Thank you to you too for responding and give me some more to think about.
~sas
As there were some posts in this thread that would’ve never made it through my personal AGR filter, with the agreement of Sassy, I have deleted said offending comments in the spirit of dispelling toxicity and forgetting the whole nasty mess. 😉
Flaming people with invalidation doesn’t pass muster around here. Check the rules for a break down. However, in a nutshell, we do not promise to approve any comments here. Period. Whether that is fair or unfair… whatever… it’s our blog and it’s our safe space.