I have worked as a barista in a cafe setting for two years now. We sell all kinds of delicious and high-fat pastries.
I am fat and well into plus-sizes. Because of this I was timid, at first, to say anything of a body acceptance nature as a fat woman. I feared judgement that I was just trying to make thin women like me** or that I was just trying to justify my fatness*** or something along those lines. It has been a good long time (over a year at the very least) since I made the decision to speak out when I felt like it and I am happy to say that it has all gone very well.
My worry surfaced again when I hired onto a cafe in a more thin-obsessed atmosphere, but again it has worked out okay. In fact, women face with the smothering atmosphere of thin-focused fatness (my cafe is in a famous department store) they seem very much ready to have their body-hate challenge. Sometimes they even seem to give me large tips for it.**** I sure didn’t expect that given the height of fat-hating panic in this country. I suspect that most women already think some of the ideas that the fatosphere promotes in the back of their minds, but are afraid to let it surface in the face of all the fat-hate and body-hate in our worlds. But, hearing someone say it, even if it is fat me, seems to help them let go a bit.
I wish more people could speak-up so that more people might let go… But, thank you to those of you who do fearlessly speak-up. You are awesome.
*For those of you who aren’t familiar with the “advice animals” meme (ie: the picture heading this post), this is Courage Wolf. He wants you to love yourself.
**I don’t think I can make thin people fat anymore than I think I can make fat people thin. Weight has high genetic correlation.
***I just like to spread the body-love message.
****The women who do get into conversation with me after I have challenge some body-hating or diet statement tend to give me the nicest tips.